The Pause Library

Everything you need to bring friends and family together around paint, flowers and a shared table.

You don't need to be an artist and you don't need a studio. All you need is a large table, some flowers, a roll of paper, an excuse to get people together. And this guide!

This simple guide will walk you through a two-hour communal painting gathering from start to finish: the materials, the atmosphere, and six drawing exercises that get everyone working at exactly the same level. No skill required. Just paint, connection and the joy of creating something as a group.

It's perfect for friends, families, birthdays, hen dos, baby showers, a slow Sunday afternoon. Any reason — or no reason at all.

This is for you if

You want to give the people in your life an experience they'll actually remember. Something different to another meal out. You've seen something like this and thought — I’d love to do that. You're not doing this commercially. You just want a beautiful, joyful gathering with no agenda beyond being together.

What's inside

• The full materials list — with clickable links for UK and US

• How to set up your space and create the right atmosphere

• What to say to settle everyone in before you begin

• Six drawing exercises that remove any pressure to be good

• How to run the painting phase and let the conversation flow

• Options for what to do with the finished piece

• A closing note on why the world needs more of this

Want the full picture? This guide gives you a joyful, memorable gathering — but it doesn't include every technique that makes the artwork itself truly beautiful and cohesive. If you're thinking about doing this for paying guests, or you simply want the complete method, the Complete Facilitation Guide (£126) is what you need.

A PDF download, yours to keep and return to every time you host. Clickable links throughout. For personal, non-commercial use.

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Ever since this concept went viral, I've been asked the same question every single day: how does the artwork look like that? How is it all connected? How do I integrate coaching?

The answer is in the complete formula. And I've included everything in this guide.

— What the full formula unlocks —

My Starter Guide gives people a genuinely joyful gathering. But the complete method includes something that changes the experience entirely - for the people in the room, and for the artwork itself.

There's a few tricks to making the artwork truly communal: layered, interconnected, cohesive. Without them, you get individual marks on a shared piece of paper. With them, you get something that looks like it was made by one creative mind.

Combined with the full facilitation framework - the prompts, the pacing, the energy reads, knowing when to ask a question and when to let silence hold the room - this is what creates the depth.

— This is for you if —

You want to run workshops for paying guests, not just friends. You want the artwork to look as good as it can. You're building a practice — a series, a retreat, a community - and you want the complete method from the start.

Or you're a coach, therapist or wellbeing practitioner. I originally created this workshop as a way to grow my coaching practice. Not as a marketing strategy - as an experience. One that lets people feel what it's like to be in a room with you before they ever book a session. There's a reason it works so well for this. It's all in the guide.

— Also included: recording of live group webinar where I answered 80 minutes worth of questions from facilitation guide customers.

— What's inside —

• Everything from the Starter Guide

• The facilitation techniques that unlock ease, deep connectivity and a truly communal artwork

• The tricks to making the finished piece cohesive, layered and genuinely beautiful

• The neuroscience of creativity — so you can speak about this with genuine conviction

• The full facilitation framework — prompts, pacing, energy reads, what to say and when

• How to hold space when someone gets emotional

• A full set of open coaching questions for the room

• How to read the room — what to watch for, how to respond

• Why this works for coaches, therapists and wellbeing practitioners

• How to find the right collaborators

• the recording of the webinar

PDF download. Please note that after the 30th September the webinar included will be a pre-recorded one. Please email me when you have received your download and I will send over the link for the recording.

Personal and small-scale commercial use.

Before you buy, please take a moment to read our Cancellation & Refunds Policy.